Men’s Sex Drive Can Cause Them to Be Insensitive

Men respect each other on the basis of power: either brute force, money or status. Men’s role as protector gives them a natural sense of superiority over women. It is this male arrogance, and self-absorbed interest in their own sexual performance, that angers a woman. Men disrespect those (including gay men) who offer others the opportunity for penetration. If a man is offensive a woman will often fall silent. Women notice such things. But men tend to assume someone will assert their opinion if they disagree. A woman expects a man to respect common courtesies. Most women discontinue relationships with men who are consistently insensitive or disrespectful.

Men want intercourse, regardless of a woman’s desire, so they are naturally insensitive to the female perspective. Women tell men all the time, both verbally and by the way they behave, that they do not want sex as often as men do. But men don’t take any notice. They assume that female modesty inhibits women’s responses. This is how men must be, to fulfil their reproductive role. It doesn’t make men bad but it isn’t right either.

A man is offended by sexual rejection regardless of logic. Even if a woman has recently given birth, a man cannot accept that having a penis thrusting into the birth canal, could not possibly be pleasurable. A woman needs at least six weeks to recover from childbirth (longer if she had a Caesarean).

A predator cannot afford to feel compassion for its prey. A carnivore only eats meat. Someone has to die. A man’s sex drive works the same way. He cannot afford to empathise with the female perspective. Otherwise he would struggle to make the most of his sexual opportunities. The human race would die out. Having a sex drive makes men selfish by definition.

Men’s sex drive motivates them to take the sexual initiative. Men are foremost attracted to body parts but they also like women to be sexually amenable, which means passive rather than assertive of her own will. When a man is aroused by a woman, he automatically assumes that she is equally aroused. This not so, even if she is in a relationship with him. When a woman feels emotionally attracted to a man, she willingly offers sex. Within a relationship, she needs to feel that he is affectionate, caring and loving.

Anyone who is the receiver of intercourse appreciates respect from the penetrating male. The penetrator has most of the pleasure. The receiver only has the pleasure of giving pleasure or pleasing a lover. This pleasure is greatly reduced if the penetrator has an unappreciative attitude. Over time men take a partner for granted and assume that sex is an automatic right. They don’t give a long-term lover the same respect they give to a new lover.

The situation where men are always hassling for sex and women are always accusing men of sexual harassment is very natural given the nature of men and women’s very different sexualities. Men resent women’s eternal sexual reluctance that they can’t understand. This confusion becomes strong resentment and anger that men then sometimes take out on women.

Men call their male companions ‘ladies’ as an insult. This implies that they are not men but people who are being indulged with special privileges because they are more vulnerable than men. One reason heterosexual men disrespect gay men is because one partner must be willing to be the receiver of intercourse. Men respect foremost the biological role of being the penetrator. This attitude recognises the fact that the penetrator obtains the satisfaction and pleasure of penetration and thrusting until ejaculation.

Men wouldn’t be so happy if someone was pushing to penetrate their orifices (mouth or anus). This probably explains the prejudice against homosexual men. Neither would men be happy if society was full of sexually provocative male bodies posted on every street corner with close ups of male genitals. Nor would men be very happy with unrealistic images of male sexual performance. Women are expected to be immune to parallel images of their own sex. Some women find it offensive that women’s breasts and vaginas are posted everywhere. It’s not a turn-on for women.

Some men enjoy pressing their erection against a woman in a crowded place or flashing their genitals to women in public. When a woman is taken by surprise by a flasher, she screams and runs away. This is clear evidence that women are not aroused by an erect penis. Whether men heckle or flash, they seem satisfied with women’s reactions of disgust, anger or embarrassment. It does not deter them. A man is simply after a response.

Women’s expressions of rejection are natural given sex (from the perspective of the basic animal instinct) originates from a male assault. This probably explains why men who flash or assault women are satisfied when women scream or shriek. Pornography also portrays women screaming, which may confuse some men who associate such noises with the presumed arousal of the actresses in pornography. A man’s desire to display his erect penis is usually limited to a partner. Most men prefer to be accepted by a woman in order to enjoy the best sexual pleasure and release. Many men accept women’s dislike of sexual phenomena. Men hide signs of their sex drive from women to avoid the embarrassment of women’s disgust.

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Intercourse Is the Heterosexual Lovemaking Act

Young people should understand what makes a positive relationship and what makes a bad one. There are benefits and risks involved in relationships depending on the degree of sexual intimacy. Before we can formulate our own view without being coerced by undue pressure from others, we need a minimum level of maturity, experience, self-esteem and self-confidence.

An attractive woman has little choice (in a primitive society) about needing to offer sex to men. An unattached female is defenceless against any man who turns aggressive. Her choice is to have many lovers (whoever cometh) or to choose one man to fight the others off. So a woman is better off choosing a man she likes and trusts. It is logical that women choose one man because this means they get the support they need to raise children.

Intercourse has always been implicit within marriage. A man’s sexual needs demonstrate his sexual admiration for a woman. His commitment to the relationship involves taking responsibility for the protection and support of the family. A woman demonstrates her love by providing her husband with the sexual interaction he needs. Most women accept this trade implicitly.

It would be very convenient for all, if men and women had a mutual enthusiasm for sex. But intercourse as a mating act, holds little interest for women (beyond the initial curiosity). Given their lack of arousal with a lover, women do not approach sex, focused on achieving their own orgasm. Neither does a woman have an incentive to be proactive in sexual activity of any kind unless she is motivated to engage on pleasing a lover. Heterosexual men assume that what pleases them must please a woman equally as well.

So heterosexual women simply accept whatever a man offers. This causes endless confusion, when coupled with the belief that women must orgasm through such activity. Men’s proactive role is a natural consequence of their sexual arousal. Men want to enjoy the erotic turn-on of interacting with a lover as well as obtaining sexual release through penetration. Women’s sexual passivity is a result of their lack of arousal. They accept men’s much greater interest in sexual activity and that it is men’s role to stimulate them.

Some animals (notably birds) mate for life. But there is no evidence to indicate that the human male is naturally monogamous. In fact, all the evidence points the other way. So a woman needs to provide an incentive for a man to be loyal. A man is much less likely to go looking for another woman if he has opportunities for regular intercourse with his partner. Most women offer sex because they identify a man as a worthy mate and a supportive companion. A woman hopes that by offering a man short-term pleasure she will obtain his love, respect, and support for her family goals.

When a man and a woman are attracted to each other, intercourse feels very natural. This is no coincidence. Men’s sex drive focuses them on intercourse as an erotic act. A woman experiences intercourse as a lovemaking act of caressing and kissing. The natural mammalian mating position is for the man to enter the woman from behind (the doggy position). But a woman may feel humiliated by this subjugated position. The missionary position (man facing the woman) takes the emphasis off the lower body action. A woman is obviated from the need to make any effort at all. She only needs to wait until the man obtains his release and ejaculates.

Men want a woman to provide some kind of erotic feedback during sex. This is because some men (the more educated) see sex with a lover as a form of mutual exchange. In much the same way, when a woman shares her thoughts and concerns, she hopes that her partner is listening to her. We can call this engagement. A man wants an engaged sexual partner. A woman wants an engaged social partner. A man who takes his camera on a date is like a woman reading a book while engaging in intercourse. We don’t feel appreciated if our partner is not giving us their full attention when we are occupied with activities and communication that are emotionally dear to us.

There are always a few women who imply that they are motivated by sexual pleasure. This makes it even more difficult, than it would be if such behaviours did not exist, for men to understand why a woman would ever object to sex. If his partner is unwilling, a man naturally assumes that she is an exception to the norm. Women who are selling anything connected with sex, including sex therapy and the massive sex service industry all serve to make us feel isolated and alone in our sexual experiences. The research indicates that men are much more interested in sexual opportunities and women correspondingly much less interested. This is normal and natural.

Consent would not be an issue if intercourse caused female orgasm. The proposal is that a man’s behaviour and attitude (loving versus abusive) transforms intercourse from a pleasurable act into a hateful act. The idea that women need a loving partner to enjoy sex, is clear evidence that women look for emotional rather than erotic rewards from sex. But the reality is hard for men to accept because it is not their experience. Equally they badly want to believe that women should naturally want exactly what men themselves want. This issue is key to understanding the concept of consent.

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How to Break Free From Sexual Jealousy to Have a Fulfilling, Orgasmic Relationship

Shae lived in a country that had a rule. Sexual control and comparison was the basis of the money system. If you wanted to be intimate, you must be sexual with three people at a time. No less. If you broke this law and chose to be intimate with one person, you would pay a tax equivalent to your year’s salary for each offense. It was the law.

This law of comparison created the disease of sexual jealousy. Sexual jealousy was based in competition. If one was inadequate, another could easily be found. This made many confident ones comfortable and happy, yet the ones longing for specific attention felt incapacitated, needy, and disabled.

Many were fearful of the jealousy disease due to God’s judgment, failure in performance, and homosexuality. Many were fearful of the Law as if the law was an entity of itself that could cut off body parts just for seeking pleasure and happiness with a consenting adult.

Shae fit into the last category. He was worried that the law would cause his beloved to seek a woman that surpassed his capability, skill, and attention. Yet, he worried that if he slept with his beloved and a man, he might find himself attracted to the same-sex and face God’s judgment. This was not acceptable according to the laws of the prophets and profits of his social community. His ancestors would disown him in the after life if they knew he was having anal sex. Neither was acceptable and both created sexual jealousy. He wanted to know the best solution for how to break free from sexual jealousy to have fulfilling, orgasmic relationship.

Shae was fearful like many. Fearful people chose celibacy to avoid living in a tent, but they often succumbed to early death from lack of love. Many people were asexual who were open to singing, walking, and looking into the eyes of another person exclusively yet they viciously refused all touch.

Asexuals, celibates, and born again virgins compared themselves constantly. One was higher than the other based upon little tiny rules similar to the hair growing on a person’s toes. The most dominant on the list of virtuous was the asexual comparison. An asexual person could be labeled a born again virgin by baptizing oneself in the blood of a being who died as a virgin. A born again virgin could hold the hand of the sexually fallen, those who had sex, got away with it, and disappeared into homeless camps to survive.

The growing tent community gathered together to sing songs around a campfire to fight off their anxiety, but the solitude and loneliness pressed hard on the hearts of many. The leading cause of death was heart attacks, which was complicated by constant coughs and heaviness of the chest.

Shae loved a woman who was extraordinary. She was elegant, powerful, graceful, and present. He wanted her exclusively for himself as he didn’t want to measure his love to others. Comparison created fear and jealousy. He wanted to be with her, but he feared being diminished.

One part of him was accepting of the concept of sharing, which manifested in his right foot. The other aspect that rejected the sharing concept manifested in his left foot. The two feet disagreed and separated as if they belonged to two bodies instead of one. He hoped the force of water would heal his feet, so he ran daily on the beach. But alas, each day he walked with a wider stride, a heavier heart, and fear from his indecision.

He went to a doctor for a pill that could solve his medical issue, but the doctor only gave him advice. “Cross your feet all night and do the opposite the next day.”

Shae followed his advice and even wrapped his feet with rope to keep them in place. By morning, he felt he was floating. He removed the binding on his feet, set his bare feet on the ground, and stepped forward. The heaviness of comparison and the heaviness of his beliefs were gone. He could walk and he could love his beloved without feeling distress from sexual comparison.

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